We are urged, for our own health, to 'talk about it.'  Sometimes we can, sometimes we can't.

It would be bad news indeed if this inability to speak lasted very long.  But, as in many other aspects of the grieving process, our psyches know what we need.

So if in our grief we are at 'a loss for words,' we don't need to be talking on and on.  Certainly we don't need to talk constantly in order to help other people feel more comfortable.  It's okay to expect them to adapt to our needs now, instead of the other way around.

--Martha Hickman

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